Avoid Triangles
Bonding with someone by talking about a third person is called “triangling,” and it’s an unhealthy way to manage work anxiety. Eg's - Gossiping about a third person, criticizing someone behind their back, and using them as a scapegoat. Keep the issue between you and the person with whom you have conflict.
Learning to use neutral and calming language in the office can help bring down everyone’s anxiety at work. Disagreements are more manageable when you begin a statement with, “Here’s what I’m thinking,” and end it with, “What are you thinking?”
Anxious people sometimes will agree to deadlines and timelines that they know they cannot meet. it’s better to be honest upfront than to apologize later. Not every deadline is negotiable, but it will save you hours of anxiety
Problem with avoidance is that it’s only a very temporary solution. Anxiety symptoms will only get worse over time the more you use distance as a way to manage disagreement, confusion, or other difficult emotions. The more you approach problems and communication head-on, the less anxious it will make you over the long term
Focus on the facts of the situation, and stay in the present. This probably isn’t the best time to pull up past grievances, no matter how relevant they may seem.